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I have a close friend of almost a decade whom I greatly cherish for her humor, non-judgmental nature, kindness, and loyalty. However, over the last 18 months, she has been excessively flirtatious with my husband, especially during social gatherings with friends and alcohol involved. While my husband may play along for fun, I am certain his intentions are purely innocent.
Despite her having a casual boyfriend, her behavior has grown from amusing to bothersome, particularly during couple events. Recently, a friend commented that her actions were excessive, suggesting caution.
A recent incident at her barbecue heightened my discomfort when she sat on my husband’s lap for an extended period, behaving as if he were her partner. Even my husband appeared uneasy with the situation.
Feeling embarrassed and disrespected by her actions, I am unsure of how to address this without jeopardizing our friendship. While I do not wish for a fallout, her behavior must change for our relationship to endure.
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Understanding the discomfort you experience in public settings due to her behavior, it may be equally humiliating for her. Have an open conversation with your husband about your feelings and request that he refrain from engaging if she initiates flirtation. It seems the situation has become awkward for him as well, but he may be hesitant to appear impolite. He can politely excuse himself, engage with others, or excuse himself if she attempts to sit on his lap. Consider limiting social interactions with her in group settings and opt for one-on-one meetings instead.
If her behavior persists, addressing it directly with her may be necessary to salvage the friendship. While this conversation may be challenging, it is crucial to communicate your concerns. She may feel remorseful and apologize, reaffirming her care for you, or she may distance herself from the relationship. Crossing boundaries with a friend’s spouse is not acceptable behavior, indicating a shift in her loyalty and kindness, potentially signaling the end of your friendship.